Hey there, Let’s talk about hyper-independence. You know, that thing where you handle everything yourself because “it’s just easier that way” (aka, you don’t trust anyone else to do it right). Hyper-independence isn’t just about being capable (which you clearly are). It’s about struggling to let someone else in. Maybe you grew up having to handle things solo, maybe you’ve been burned before, or maybe you just think your partner will wait until December 23rd to start holiday shopping (and,...
8 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, A tough part of my work is helping couples decide if they'll stay together or not. In fact, one of them usually shares with me privately that they are considering leaving before they share with their partner. Here are the questions I have them answer before making this difficult decision: 1) What needs do you have that are not being met in the relationship? Have you communicated them clearly? How many times and what was the outcome?2) Are the needs you have needs your partner...
8 months ago • 1 min read
“Ships passing in the night,” that’s how clients have shared with me it feels with their partner. There’s just so much going on that prioritizing their relationship is last on the list. Over time, this is what leads couples to question if there is anything left in their relationship to stick around for. They’ve forgotten how to prioritize their relationship, and when they do, they get angry if their partner isn’t doing it too. Here’s something I want you to try this month to get out of this...
8 months ago • 1 min read