As a therapist with 15 years of experience, I specialize in guiding high-achieving, busy couples who are ready to reconnect, rebuild, and thrive together. With a relatable, real-world approach (and a bit of humor), I teach couples practical, time-efficient tools to bridge their unique communication styles, rebuild trust, and find joy in their partnership again.
Should you stay or should you go?
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Hey Reader, A tough part of my work is helping couples decide if they'll stay together or not. In fact, one of them usually shares with me privately that they are considering leaving before they share with their partner. Here are the questions I have them answer before making this difficult decision: 1) What needs do you have that are not being met in the relationship? Have you communicated them clearly? How many times and what was the outcome? 3) If you no longer felt so negative, would you still want to leave the marriage? 4) How do you feel like your marriage is holding you back from being the version of you that you want to be? 5) How are you holding yourself back from being the version of you that you want to be? Once they answer these questions as honestly as possible, we start to explore the next steps: whether that is staying in the marriage or sharing with their partner their intent to leave. I'll share with you a reality that's not spoken about enough: Perimenopause absolutely impacts a woman's desire to leave. If you want more information on why, hit reply and write "more info." If you're in this space right now of questioning and would like some support: I'm offering a three session package for individual work to get crystal clear on if you want to stay in your relationship or not. Everything you share is confidential. If you want more information on these clarity sessions, hit reply and write "3 sessions." I'll send you over the cost and what each session would involve. I've said this before, and I'll say it again....it's normal to question your relationship. It's actually very healthy...but it's also very scary and can lead to reactive decisions versus proactive choices. Let me support you in proactive choices. Hit reply and write "3 sessions" to learn more. Sending you hugs, -Katie |
Katie Rössler
As a therapist with 15 years of experience, I specialize in guiding high-achieving, busy couples who are ready to reconnect, rebuild, and thrive together. With a relatable, real-world approach (and a bit of humor), I teach couples practical, time-efficient tools to bridge their unique communication styles, rebuild trust, and find joy in their partnership again.
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