As a therapist with 15 years of experience, I specialize in guiding high-achieving, busy couples who are ready to reconnect, rebuild, and thrive together. With a relatable, real-world approach (and a bit of humor), I teach couples practical, time-efficient tools to bridge their unique communication styles, rebuild trust, and find joy in their partnership again.
Are You Too Independent for Your Own Good?
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Hey there, Let’s talk about hyper-independence. You know, that thing where you handle everything yourself because “it’s just easier that way” (aka, you don’t trust anyone else to do it right). Hyper-independence isn’t just about being capable (which you clearly are). It’s about struggling to let someone else in. Maybe you grew up having to handle things solo, maybe you’ve been burned before, or maybe you just think your partner will wait until December 23rd to start holiday shopping (and, honestly, they probably will) so why not do the whole thing yourself?!? But here’s the problem: When you always say, “Nope, I got it,” your partner eventually stops offering. And suddenly, you’re overwhelmed and also resentful that they’re not helping-see the problem? Hyper-independence doesn’t just burn you out, it pushes your partner away. In this week’s episode of Relationship Reset, I’m diving into why we do this, how it shows up in relationships, and-most importantly-how to break the cycle before you completely lose your mind (or your partner). So, grab a warm drink and press play. It’s time to stop doing all the things and start letting them be a part of your team. Enjoy! Katie |
Katie Rössler
As a therapist with 15 years of experience, I specialize in guiding high-achieving, busy couples who are ready to reconnect, rebuild, and thrive together. With a relatable, real-world approach (and a bit of humor), I teach couples practical, time-efficient tools to bridge their unique communication styles, rebuild trust, and find joy in their partnership again.
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